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What is Intimacy in Marriage?

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Dear Reader,

 With great joy and happiness, I bring God's Word your way today.  I see God doing something new in your home and family in Jesus' name.  I will be sharing with you a topic which I titled, What Is Intimacy In Marriage?

            It is very important for us to know that marriage is a mystery of two people becoming one.  Intimacy is the pillar of every successful marriage, and it is the responsibility of both parties.  When we talk about intimacy, the husband and wife should be the most intimate persons and best of friends.

What is intimacy?

            Intimacy is the closeness of your relationship with your spouse - emotionally, spiritually, intellectually, sexually, and in many other ways. Intimacy is not an end, but rather a journey that lasts throughout your marriage. Intimacy means a warm, close, confidential or private relationship, which develops through long association, friendship and familiarity.

UNDERSTANDING THE NEEDS FOR INTIMACY

Spiritual Needs

           You must understand what your husband or wife likes and needs concerning his or her spiritual life and help each other to attain it. For example, if your husband likes waking up in the middle of the night to read or study, you can be of help to him by alerting him when it is time to wake up: You, too, can also do likewise and make him a cup of hot tea. You can encourage him to do some spiritual exercise that he needs

Emotional Needs

            For intimacy to be developed in a marriage, you must understand your husband's emotions. When he is depressed, try to find out what is happening and encourage him. You must not allow an "uncaring attitude" to creep into your home.

Psychological Needs

            You must also understand some masculine peculiarities they crave for: Profound respect and admiration.

These are two basic things, which every man craves for, from his wife.

Physical Needs

Intimacy can be developed, if you understand what your husband's physical needs are and meet them.

You should satisfy his physical needs by:

ü Giving your husband the type of food he likes, and not the one you like. Even, if you do not like a particular type of food before, you could try to adjust simply because of him.

ü Always wear the colour or type/style of dress he likes, not the one you want to wear. If he does not like a particular dress, it is not advisable to keep wearing such.

ü Adopt hairdos or styles that he likes, not what you like.

ü Be available to him, when he wants to make love to you.

ü Do everything to please him. This will aid in developing intimacy, because he will trust and have interest in you.

Companionship

            Every man is created to crave constant fellowship. It is one of the major motivating factors that draw two people of the opposite sex together. After creation, the only thing that God called "Not good" was the fact that man was alone. Loneliness has been discovered to be one of the causes of mental retardation and erratic behaviours in many people, who are in that condition.

            True companionship is what makes marriage meaningful. Spouses are not meant to be roommates, but the closest of friends.  The Word of God says:  Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend (Proverbs 27:17).

            It is unfortunate that many couples are missing out of this wonderful aspect of marriage. They live under the same roof, yet they are more or less strangers. Such marriages are empty and with time, their frustration leads to divorce. This is not the will of God. He expects you to have sweet communion not only with Him, but also with your partner.

            The first step to take to enjoy intimacy in your marriage, is to have an intimate relationship with your Creator (born again).  You become born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus Christ as the Lord and Saviour of your life and family.  If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today.  I am a sinner.  Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood.  Deliver me from sin and satan to serve the living God.  I accept You as my Lord and Saviour.  Make me a child of God today.  Thank you for accepting me into your kingdom"

Congratulations! Till I come your way again next week, call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail: Contact@faithoyedepo.org and Counselling@faithoyedepo.org,   Tel.  No: 07026385437, 08141320204

For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Family, Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).

 

 

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