BECOMING A ‘HELP MEET’
This month, I shall be teaching on, Becoming A ‘Help Meet.' The first thought that comes to the mind of many, with the word "Help Meet" is WOMAN. Many see this word as woman's assignment from God. Many others, both male and female have reduced this word to mean a nice way of referring to a servant or slave. What a perspective!
God's Word says: …And the Lord said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him (Genesis 2:18). The word "help meet" implies one who "surrounds with aid and assistance." God's decision resulted in the creation of the woman as a solution. She was the perfect help that Adam did not find in all the animals, trees, plants and other things created.
The word "Man" as referred to in this context, does not imply that only the woman is the ‘help meet'. The word ‘Man' in the Bible usually covers both genders. It means both female and male. Both are meant to complement each other by filling up the vacuum in each other's lives. This can clearly be seen in the physical build of the man and the woman. Both have complementary roles to play and that is why while the Man as a ‘help meet' amongst other duties, has the responsibilities of providing, protecting and taking care of his home. The woman, on the other hand, reproduces, makes the home and does all other motherly duties.
THE MAN AS A HELP MEET
The first man (Adam), when he was given a woman as a help meet, knew he had some form of responsibility, too, to help her in return, so he said in Genesis 2:23: This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman because she was taken out of man.
In actual fact, he meant that he had full responsibility of surrounding his woman with all the aid and assistance she would ever need spiritually, physically, emotionally and materially, just as he would do for himself. God has put in the man, a form of strength, security, protective and provisional force, in order to meet this responsibility.
You are expected, therefore, to surround your woman with aid, assistance and help meeting her weaknesses. God's Word says: Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honour to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together for the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered (1 Peter 3:7).
Helping your woman, amongst other areas, demand an exercise of understanding and honouring her. Being an effective help meet to your woman is very important, as failure to meet this responsibility renders your prayers unanswered! There is nothing as frustrating as praying and receiving no answers to all your prayers, but this shall not be your portion in Jesus' name.
The man has a responsibility of making his woman become what he wants her to become. Therefore, if your woman's weaknesses are pronounced even after you got married to her, then it means that you are not fulfilling your responsibility effectively. You must surround her with help in all matters, no matter how little it may look.
For example, a man who complains so much that his wife has become too fat, should consider it his fault since he did not marry her a fat woman. If you have an ill-behaved wife, you are to be blamed, because you know her more than any other person. It is your responsibility to take care of her completely, as you would do for yourself. So, why not do a good job at home! Be the man – that is the divine order.
Lending a helping hand and being available, makes a lot of difference in relationships. It can be quite frustrating for a woman to be busy doing all the housework, while the man just sits in front of the television enjoying a game of football and from time to time turns around to say to her worn-out woman, "I love you, dear." She knows you love her, at least you've said so. But take a step, help her around the house, it adds credence to your words!
Take this testimony for instance:
"When the Bishop's wife taught us the course, Family Life, at the Bible School, one would have thought she had secretly conducted a research on me, because every aspect of the lecture was directed at me, positively or negatively! After the second day of the course, I got home and saw that my wife had to carry 20 crates of soft drinks down the road, while she was at the same time getting dinner together.
Unknown to her, I packed all the crates into my car and took them there for her. When I got back home, behold, my wife was at the door, and seeing that I had packed all the crates down the road, she started singing and dancing! Children of God, that was all the service I needed to have rendered in my family. Ever since, it's been tranquility, joy and peace galore!"
Husband, there may be times when your wife is down physically. The help you render to her at such times either in form of support, kind words, a little physical touch, a kiss or a little gift from you will do the magic!
It is no understatement to say God will hold you accountable for anything that happens in your home. So, rise up to your responsibility. I see His grace constantly available to help you carry out this responsibility effectively in Jesus' name.
To receive this grace, you need to accept Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour. Please say this prayer: Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner, so I cannot help myself. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your blood. Deliver me from the power of sin and Satan to serve the Living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You for making me your child. Now, I know I am born again.
Congratulations! Till I come your way again next week, call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org; Tel. No: 07026385437, 08141320204
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Family, Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).