GUIDELINES FOR AN EXCITING MARRIAGE
I welcome you to another enlightening edition of Family Life. Throughout this month, we shall be deliberating on the topic, Guidelines for an Exciting Marriage.
Today, we shall be sharing on what I captioned, Possessing a Right Perspective of what marriage is. It is no doubt that when you possess a right perspective of a thing, it motivates you for a better approach.
Marriage is the oldest institution in the world, and it is rooted in divinity. God is the Originator of marriage (Genesis 2:22). None can come up with a manual of what he/she is not the originator or inventor. It will amount to foolishness.
Marriage is the coming together of a man and a woman with a view to building a God-centred home. This kind of relationship is quite unique, because it is ordained by the Originator for satisfaction of healthy needs and desires.
The first marriage was consummated in the Garden of Eden by God. Therefore, because family life originated from God, He must be your focus and at the centre of your marriage to enjoy a better living.
It is important to note that according to God's standard, marriage is for a lifetime. Therefore, having a good understanding before going into it, is very crucial; it shouldn't be entered into hastily either.
Countless people are experiencing hell in their marriages, perhaps because they entered into it with the wrong perspective. Some, at the expense of finding fulfilment, had many wives and are still dissatisfied. Others are separated, while some live a cat and dog life, wishing that someone would deliver them from it someday.
Despite all these, there are some who are enjoying their marriages and making a success of them. This is not just by luck. Success is not by luck, you programme yourself for the type of success you desire.
Marriage can be likened to a physical house. It's quite impossible to just wake up one day and see a fully built physical house somewhere. No! They are consciously built. It takes some months and even years of manual and mechanic work to achieve this. In the same vein and even much more, a good marriage doesn't just happen; it is consciously made to happen.
However, as a born-again child of God, a successful family life is your birthright. It is God's will and desire for you to enjoy an exciting marriage, home, life and family. But you must understand that your input is of great significance to the achievement of this.
Marriage is meant for help, not hurt or hinder one another. It is not meant to make life worse either. God's Word says: I will make him a help (Genesis 2:18); Two are better than one (Ecclesiastes 4:9). As a single Christian hoping to get married some day or soon, are you preparing to be a help to your spouse in your marriage? As a married individual, have you been a hindrance and hurt to the success of your marriage? Or do you maintain a ‘survival-of-the-fittest' attitude?
Can I say this to those of you who are married? Your marriage is what you make it to be. Even the law of creation forbids things happening by themselves. Stop waiting for your home to adjust itself. Do not keep silent watching it the way it is. Rather, adjust it with the Originator's Manual – the Bible. Act on the Word of God and see your home become a heaven on earth.
In case someone has told you, "That's how life is", or "Just bear it", or "Maybe that's your lot in life." Refuse to accept that! It's not true! That's not what God has designed for you. Don't accept less than what God has purposed for you. Don't allow the devil or any motivational speaker to cheat you into believing that an exciting marriage is not feasible. Your marriage can still experience ecstasy, and that situation can still change. The breath of life can still find its way into your family, if you will co-operate with God.
If you are ready to allow Jesus take over the affairs of your home, you can surrender all to Him by saying this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I believe You died and rose on the third day. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your Precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now, I know I am a child of God.
Congratulations! You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: Email: email@example.com and Tel. No: 07026385437, 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Family and Success In Marriage (Co-authored).