GUIDELINES FOR AN EXCITING MARRIAGE (2)
It's another privilege to spend some time with you. I told you last week that one of the guidelines for an exciting marriage, is to possess a right perspective of what marriage is.
God is specifically concerned about your marriage and family. It is worthy of note that God desires your marriage and family life to be peaceful and fulfilling. He has made everything available for you to experience success in these areas.
Today, I will be teaching on Keeping Yourself Pure!
It is God's desire that your marriage be kept pure. You must, therefore, ensure that you keep the marriage bed pure to enjoy the honour in marriage.
God's Word says: Marriage is honourable in all and the bed undefiled… (Hebrews 13:4). The word ‘undefiled' there simply means kept pure. Whether as singles or married, to enjoy the honour that is in marriage, you must ensure you keep the marriage bed pure. If this was impossible, God won't tell you to do it.
Young men, don't keep messing around with ladies, thinking that nobody knows. Don't take away the honour that God has in store for you in marriage, because He is watching (Proverbs 15:13).
As singles, if you indeed crave for an exciting marriage, you must lay a good foundation for it by keeping yourself pure. It does not matter whether it is acceptable in the society or not. If you think that God will forgive you after doing it, what about the scar?
The marriage bed must remain undefiled, because sex is the seal of the marriage covenant. Any sexual relationship engaged in outside marriage, breaks the seal and attracts God's punishment. Therefore, you must never get yourself involved in it. However, if you have already defiled the bed, repent and ask God for forgiveness, then forsake it immediately.
Aside the spiritual implication of defilement, many people who got engaged in it get emotionally distorted to the extent that it disturbs their marital life. You can save your marriage from torments by keeping your life pure.
The later part of our anchor scripture says: …but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge (Hebrews 13:4). The word ‘whore' simply means harlot. Give no room to the devil, if your soul is actually precious to you. When you get into defiling the marriage bed, whether you are single or married, it is because your soul is not precious to you.
God made man with certain physiological and emotional needs, and marriage provides the best fulfilment for those needs. Physiologically, man needs sex. It is part of his physical nature, and the satisfaction of that urge is permitted only within the parameters of marriage. God honours the physical union of a man and his wife by ensuring that they find fulfilment in each other's body (1 Corinthians 7:2). This is why He frowns at adultery and fornication.
This is not to say that young men and women should rush into marriage, just for the sole aim of satisfying their sexual urge. That would make them nothing but bedmates. The love and excitement in such a relationship never last, and that is not God's plan or purpose for marriage. As a single man or lady, you are expected to control your urge until you locate a suitable partner with whom you are ready to spend the rest of your life, and are legally married.
The truth is: If you cannot tame your sexual drive while single, you probably will not be able to exercise control even when you are married. Flaunting God's purpose in this area of marriage can be very costly to your home and destiny. Refuse to fall a victim, if you truly have value for yourself.
The presentation of your body unto the Almighty God as a living sacrifice, is your reasonable service unto God (Romans 12:1). It does not matter what you do and the volume of money you give in Church every day. If your body is not kept pure, that service is not acceptable unto God.
Whether single or married, illicit sexual affairs render your service to God unrewardable, and will deprive you of enjoying the honour He has destined for you in marriage. God is much more interested in your person than your money or what you can do. When your person is acceptable unto God, then your service will become acceptable.
Honour in marriage is your heritage in Christ. You need to take it by force, by stopping every harlotry in your life. Receive grace to practise the Word of God, so that you can find fulfilment in your marriage, in Jesus' name.
If you are not born again and you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and Saviour, then say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I believe You died and rose on the third day. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your Precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now, I know I am a child of God.
Congratulations! You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: Email: email@example.com and Tel. No: 07026385437, 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Family and Success In Marriage (Co-authored).