TAKE HEED OF MARIAGE DESTROYERS
It is the fifth month already and we give God praise for the past months. It is important for you to know that there are certain things that should not be found in your marriage, if you want to enjoy a blissful home. These things must be avoided in your marriage, because they cause stress, pain, arguments, quarrel, lack of peace, separation and sometimes, divorce. Most of them are caused by people, so a good knowledge of them will help you protect your marriage from these things. This week, I shall be looking at two of them.
Wrong Company: Walking with a foolish person is as bad as being foolish. The Word of God says: He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed (Proverbs 13:20). From the above scripture, a man does not have to behave foolishly before he ends up in destruction. All he needs to do is walk with the foolish and very soon, the folly in his friend will become part of him. The company you keep either makes or mar you; it doesn't leave you the same. The major cause of problems in many homes today is wrong company. When family members start or keep receiving counsel from wrong companies or moving with them, there will always be trouble in their homes.
A wrong association will affect you negatively. It will make you do things that you would never have done on your own. You must be careful about your choice of company and friends. A wise man once said, "Show me your friends, and I will tell you who you are." I would like to ask you the same question today as you are reading this article: Who is your friend? If your friend is one that is a liar, a cheat, a thief, one that beats his wife or one that is covetous and you think you are not like him or her, then, you are wrong. Very soon the nature of your friend will begin to rub off on you and the end-result will be destruction. That shall not be your portion in Jesus' name!
Anyone that constantly provokes your spirit and gives you wrong counsel against your wife, husband or family well-being will destroy your home. The Word of God says: Be not deceived: evil communication corrupt good manner (I Corinthians 15:33). A wrong company or association corrupts good manners. The basis for any association should be agreement (Amos 3:3). When the company or association you keep, is not in agreement with the things you believe in, then you must end that relationship. Friendship, as they say is by choice and not by force! Separate yourself from wrong friends: be selective in your association. Select your friends with wisdom. Do not allow wrong company to destroy your home and marriage.
SLOTHFULNESS: This is another thing that can destroy marriages. It simply means laziness. Successful families don't just happen; they are consciously made to happen. If God had to work for six days when He was creating the world in Genesis chapter one, you must be ready to give what it takes in order to enjoy a successful family life. Get rid of laziness or slothfulness because the fruit of laziness is shame. There are some women that find it difficult to attend to their husbands, especially in the area of cooking. They leave everything for their house-help including the upbringing of the children. This habit can easily destroy both the marriage and the family. Knowing what to do to improve the state of your family and not doing it or doing it for a while and giving up will not bring you the success you desire; and such attitude can destroy your marriage and family. You must co-operate with God by playing your own part and getting rid of spiritual and physical laziness in order to enjoy a successful family.
A brother who read one of my tracts, Created to Create said: "I was very happy when I read your tract. I am in a business now. But I used to be very lazy right from my youth. I was lazy to the point that I was always late to school because of oversleeping. But after reading your tract, which made mentioned a sister who decided to sell boiled water for drinking at a school and prospered by it, and another lady who sold tomatoes and bought a car with the profits, I became ashamed of myself, because my business was not prospering due to my lazy attitude. I was challenged to change my lazy ways and decided to do according to your advice in that tract. God touched my soul and I was converted. I thank God for opening my eyes. My life and business are no longer the same!"
I see the same thing happening in your life, as you take the right steps to get rid of every act of laziness and slothfulness in your life in Jesus' name. I curse every sluggish, dull and drag attitude that has stolen the beauty in your family before now! I decree the release of God's grace upon you to be diligent, so that you can enjoy your family in Jesus' name!
You need Jesus Christ to help you maintain the right company and strengthen you at all times. But you can only receive Him when you become born again. If you will like to be born again, please say this prayer: Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You for saving me. Now I know I am born again!
Congratulations! You are now born again! Till I come your way next time, please call or write, and share your testimonies with me through: E-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org; Tel. No: 07026385437; 08141320204
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work and Building a Successful Family.