LOVE & MARRIAGE
You are most welcome to another destiny-moulding edition of Family Matters. This month, we shall be examining extensively the topic, Love and Marriage.
It is my prayer that as you open your heart to receive and act on God's Word concerning your marriage, today, you will experience a positive transformation in Jesus' mighty name. Amen.
To start with, what is love? The Advanced Learner's Dictionary defines love as warm liking or affection. It is also described as affectionate devotion. Love is a major requirement for making your marriage successful. It is the major material required in building and transforming your house into a home. Someone said, "Love is what makes a house a home."
The love I am talking about, however, is not the type of love the world has to offer which says, "If you love me I will love you in return." The type of love I am talking about, is God's kind of love. It is from the Greek word "AGAPE." This love is unconditional. It is the kind of love that says, "In spite of your faults, in spite of your shortcomings, I love you all the same."
God's Word says: "But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8). Just as God did not wait for us to be perfect before sending His Son to die for us, we are not to lay down conditions for our spouse, children, friends and neighbours before we could love them.
Agape is the love God pours in your heart by the Holy Ghost, when you get born again (Romans 5:5). It is supernatural. In a world where every man seems to be looking out for his own welfare and no one else's, marriage disintegrating like a pack of cards, children being neglected and abused in various ways, the need for this love cannot be overemphasized.
Everyone wants to be loved, everyone needs love. The Lord showed this to be a healthy desire when He asked: Simon Peter, Simon, son of Jonas, lovest thou me more than these? (John 21:15).
Love is never a magical or mysterious emotion that two people fall into or out of, for no apparent reason. The truth is: loving relationships must be nurtured. They take work. Love is care and consideration directed toward another person, not just an ethereal emotion.
The work involved in building and preserving the marital bond, is well worth the time and effort. Husbands and wives, who are committed to this positive process, often describe their mates as their best friends. This is simply another way of describing the kind of bond God desires for every marriage.
Husband and wife must learn to work together in marriage, showing respect and love to each other. Such an approach follows the biblical principles of wives submitting to their husbands and husbands loving and honouring their wives (Ephesians 5:22, 25; 1 Peter 3:1, 7). Establishing family in an atmosphere of love and respect, gives the newly married a foundation upon which to build their lives, together.
Understanding the place of love in marriage begins with having a personal relationship with God, the Originator of marriage. Do you wish to invite Him into your marriage? You need to be born again! This is done by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me of my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. Deliver me from sin and Satan, to serve the Living God. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now I know I am born again!
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all the Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Single With A Difference, Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Family, The Effective Minister's Wife and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).