UNDERSTANDING THE FAMILY (2)
Last week, I started a teaching on Understanding The Family, and we examined the family unit and marriage relationship. This week, we will be examining, Marriage Versus Family.
Marriage Versus Family
Fredrick K. C. Price said, "Marriage is a divine ordinance. Without marriage as a divine ordinance, you cannot have a family. You may have a group of people living in the same house, but you cannot have a family. You will have a living arrangement, but not godly relationships."
In other words, if there is no marriage, there can be no family, because there is a decent order and process to follow in establishing a family. The Bible admonishes us: Let all things be done decently and in order (1 Corinthians 14:40).
The marriage relationship, though essential to the family unit, differs from family relationship. Let's see how:
Firstly, marriage is between two parties, man and woman, husband and wife. It is between two people of the opposite sex only. It is important to make this point very clear here, especially in these "modern" days of "same sex marriages". Even though same sex marriages may be acceptable to the society, it is not acceptable to God. For: … Male and female created he them (Genesis 1:27). Therefore shall a man …cleave unto his wife… (Genesis 2:24).
Notice the words "male", "female", "man", and "wife" in the above scriptures. These all point to two people of the opposite sex, not same sex. God is a God of details. To have God's kind of marriage, things must be done His own way. Following the crowd and doing what everybody else is doing can never make for success in marriage. Caution! Caution!! Caution!!! God warns in His Word: …Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate (homosexuals), nor abusers of themselves with mankind … shall inherit the kingdom of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10).
To go against the Word of God, makes life to be against you! The scriptures cannot be broken. To attempt to break scriptures, is to be broken in life. Those who make light of God's Word are naturally victims in life.
Secondly, marriage is a covenant, resulting in a fusion, a blending, and a lifelong relationship between one man and one woman. The husband and wife relationship is established by covenant.
Marriage is not just a good idea, it is God's idea. God instituted it; it is divine. It is not a cultural thing, but a scriptural thing. It is not a product of man's arrangement, but God's arrangement.
A family tie, however, is a common ancestral or associational bond resulting in a connecting cord between the individuals within that same family. Its existence is not necessarily by their own volition. That is, you really have no say in deciding which family to belong to. And Judah said unto his brethren … he is our brother and our flesh... (Genesis 37:26-27).
Thirdly, marriage is by choice; each party chooses to become bonded. In a family, however, each member is bonded as a result of their common ancestry, whether or not they choose to. In Genesis 28:2, Isaac told Jacob his son: Arise, go to Padan-aram, to the house of Bethuel thy mother's father; and take thee a wife from thence of the daughters of Laban thy mother's brother.
The marriage relationship in which you find yourself, is a product of your choice, and choices are so important. To a great extent, they determine the flavour of our lives.
On the other hand, the family into which you are born, is not a product of your choice. The relationship between children and parents is established by birth. You do not choose who your father or mother would be, before you are born. Or did you? You cannot change your father, neither can you change your mother. Nonetheless, the good news is that God never makes mistakes. Whatever family you are born into is not accidental, God did it on purpose, and it is for your good. Don't ever wish you were born into another family. The family into which you are born is the best, for you to fulfil your reason for existence. Get excited! You are born in due season.
Don't ever despise the family into which you were born. No matter the challenges there, God might have sent you there for such a time as this. As you handle those challenges effectively, you will emerge a champion.
Fourthly, marriage is the foundation for the family. A marriage is entered into by choice, and then grows into a family unit. The principles that keep the marriage standing, must flow into the lifestyle of family members. This is because in a marriage, an individual makes a choice for him/herself. But in establishing a family, the individual is bringing loved ones and more individuals together, to partake of the either healthy environment created or painful experiences being endured (Genesis 47:9). Marriage and family are meant to be enjoyed, not endured.
God is still in the business of making successful your marriage. He will restore and help you to make things right again, when you accept Him through His Son Jesus Christ and become born again. If you will like to be born again and begin to enjoy God's help and peace in your home, please say this prayer: "Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your blood. Deliver me from sin and satan, to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into your Kingdom".
Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus' Name!
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For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Marriage Covenant, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).