ESSENTIAL ELEMENTS FOR A SWEET HOME (3)
You are welcome to another very interesting time in God's presence. My focus is still on Essential Elements For A Sweet Home.
Last week, we saw how powerful the word, "Thank you" is. This week, we will yet be receiving another essential element that will enhance the transformation you desire in your marriage. It is learning to says, "I love you.''
Saying, "I love you" over and over again spices up the marriage. Words are powerful, and just like it is necessary for rain to fall again and again for farmers to reap a bountiful harvest, so also is it necessary to say "I love you" over and over again.
The relationship started off by the use of these three words should grow by its continuous use. A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. The presumptuous claim that it's not necessary to say it over and over again because, "He or she should know I love him/her," is wrong. The Bible points out the importance of voicing out what one believes in the heart (Romans 10:10). What you believe in your heart, you need to say with your mouth. No one can read minds, and until thoughts are voiced out, they remain private.
These are just three short words, yet by them men and women come together to establish God's counsel on the earth. Often, however, these words are forgotten, after the excitement of the wedding ceremony is over.
Faith, the Bible tells us, comes by hearing. If faith, the all-important mountain mover, becomes ours by the simple act of hearing, imagine how many mountains will be moved out of your homes when you say, "I love you" to your spouse often!
Someone once said the problem is that we say what we have, instead of what we want. If you want the oil in the home to dry up, confess the negative. That's how God won man to Himself - while we were yet sinners, Christ died, thus saying, "I love you'' to people who rejected His love. However, the day you decide to accept His love, is a day of the fulfilment of prophecy.
Husband and wife must learn to speak kind words to each other. Words create the atmosphere of a sweet home relationship. Express to your mate the nice qualities you like in him or her. There must be a continued renewal of your love towards your spouse (Colossians 3:19; Ephesians 5:25-28).
Someone rightly said, "Action speaks louder than words.'' There is a place for words, but there's a place for action. Lending a helping hand, being available, make a difference in relationships. They are a way to say, "I care". Someone once said that it can be quite frustrating for a woman to do all the work in the house, while the man sits in front of the television enjoying a game of football, only to say to the tired woman, "I love you, dear". She knows you love her; at least you've said so, but take a step and help her with the household chores. It adds zest to your words.
When a wife hears, "I love you'' from the husband, her countenance changes. She cannot hear it too much. My husband is never too tired to appreciate and say, "I love you" to me. Each time I hear that from my husband, I'm excited and on top throughout the day. It works!
Say the words before leaving for work and when you come home. Say, "I love you" before hanging up the phone or after a particularly inspiring conversation. Every marriage needs a daily dose of these three important words. "I love you" often is never a bad habit to cultivate. Even if we are upset with our spouse that day, saying "I love you" may help us forgive him or her.
Learn to say nice words to your family members. Husbands, it's not wrong to say, "I love you" to your wife often.
If you are not born again, you are not yet a child of God and it will be impossible for you to benefit from what has just been discussed, as God is only committed to His own (Romans 10:9-10; John 1:12). But if you want to be born again and become a child of God now, why not say this simple prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I believe You died and rose again for my sake. Forgive me of my sins, take over my life, make me Your child and let Your peace reign over my life.
Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All round rest and peace are guaranteed you in Jesus' Name!
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For more insight, these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building a Successful Family, The Effective Minister's Wife, and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored with Bishop David Oyedepo).