DWELLING ACCORDING TO KNOWLEDGE (2)
You are welcome this glorious week of another exciting edition. I believe you enjoyed this column last week? Your home will continue to experience a positive transformation in Jesus' name!
One of the most important lessons we learnt last week is that, there are lots of family crises when we have little or no knowledge of our duties in fulfilling God's ultimate purpose for the family. That is why the Bible says in Hosea 4:6: My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge… Today, I will be examining the Duties of the Men
To the husbands, we read in the Bible: Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them (Colossians 3:19). Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered (1 Peter 3:7). Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church (Ephesians 5:25, 28 -29).
A man's primary responsibility in the family is to care for and generally oversee the welfare of his family. A great burden is placed on the man to love his wife as Christ loves the Church, and he is not exempted from this responsibility, even if his wife is not submissive or is unsaved. This responsibility can be accomplished only through sacrifices, being a godly example, and through an unconditional devotion, commitment and dedication to his family.
Your wife is your chief concern, second only to God. Matthew 5:43-48 defines this type of love beautifully. There Jesus enjoined us that human love must be patterned after the manner of God's love. This kind of love is generous and with an unconditional goodwill. Likewise, irrespective of the behaviour of other members of the family, the man must always seek their welfare.
The man is the head of the household and bears the responsibility for the entire family unit. His leadership position as head of the union places a great responsibility on him to protect, care for, and seek the general well-being of his family spiritually, physically, and emotionally. This kind of love must be seen in action, not mere words. A man can tell members of his family all day long that he loves them, but until he shows them that love, his words will do little to strengthen their family relationship.
The husband should encourage the spiritual development of his family, as Christ encouraged the spiritual development of His disciples. He must even be prepared to lay down his life for them, if necessary. This includes giving up selfish hobbies and past times, which take him away from the family unit or drain needed resources from the family budget.
For the spiritual development of the family, it is also required that the husband leads his household in the study of God's Word and in regular family devotions. He is to take the lead, particularly by example, in the worship of God.
Also included in the meaning of "dwell with them according to knowledge" is the intimate knowledge of your wife and family members. Familiarity breeds intimacy. The man must take the time and make the effort to know what his wife and family members like and dislike, what makes them happy and sad, and what makes them secure and insecure, and strive to satisfy or please them.
A man of wisdom said, and I agree with him, that the more we know God, the greater love for God we will have, and the greater allegiance and obedience we will yield to Him. The same is true of the family. The more a man knows his family and his responsibilities towards them, the more he will love his family and desire to serve and provide for them. The only way to acquire the required knowledge in all these areas, is by a diligent study of God's Word (2 Timothy 2:15).
Another fundamental duty of the man is to honour his wife and other members of the family. This perhaps is an even higher level of responsibility, than just providing for their physical needs. Respect, they say, is reciprocal. If a man must enjoy respect from members of his household, then he must be willing first to invest in it. He must respect, admire, appreciate, praise and exalt his family. These he does by his chaste conduct, behaviour and speech.
A man should not be a tyrant. A man and his wife are equal before God, though they have different functions. Husbands and wives are to submit to one another (Colossians 3:18, 1Peter 3:1-7). It should be noted that women are not inferior, nor are they subservient in status to the men. Though a woman is equal to her husband, yet by the marriage covenant she has chosen to submit herself to her own husband (Genesis 24:8, 58), even though she is equal in status to other men. If a man, therefore, recognises this important fact, it becomes easy for him to give honour to his wife.
A man cannot direct the affairs of his family, without first having daily fellowship with the Lord in prayers and the study of the Bible. This can only be possible only when you give your life to God and be born again. To get born again, you have to confess your sins and accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour. If you are ready to be born again, please say this simple prayer with me, in faith: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I believe You died and rose again for my sake. Forgive me of my sins, take over my life, make me Your child and let Your peace reign over my life. Thank you for saving me. Now I know I am born again.
Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus' Name!
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