Unveiling The Secrets of A Successful Home
I welcome you to this new month in which God's visitation in your family will bring a lot of blessings and peace in Jesus' name. This month, I shall be Unveiling the Secret of a Successful Home.
Every single person desires a home that will be full of peace and a successful marriage. But a lot of people are not prepared to pay the price to have a successful home. A successful home is not a gift, neither is it a package for some selected few. It is what everyone that desires it could have.
The Bible says: If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? (Psalm 11:3). Laying a good foundation for your home, is the beginning of having a successful home. This week, I will be discussing: Laying A Good Foundation for Your Home.
The period before wedding can be regarded as the foundation laying period in family life. The right choice of a life partner, the quality of the courtship, etc, all determine just how successful the marriage will be. There are very basic principles I will be discussing here, but in their simplicity there is profundity.
Choose A Family Member:
When trying to decide who to marry, never choose to marry an unbeliever, no matter the vision, dream or counsel. The Abrahamic covenant demands that you marry among your "kinsmen" only. As a believer, your kinsman is a fellow believer.
You are not permitted to marry a stranger. Do not ever think that someday she might be saved. It is easier for an unbeliever to make you backslide, than for you to save him or her. 2 Corinthians 6:14-16 commands: Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God...
Keep Your Courtship Pure:
This word of caution is necessary at this juncture, because when you love an individual and spend time together alone, there is bound to be a desire to touch, caress and cuddle that person. But one thing leads to another until the bed is defiled. I have seen a lot of families in trouble for this reason.
The Bible says: Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled but whoremongers and adulterer God will judge (Hebrews 13:4). There is an adage that says that the soup you will eat at night, why must you be in a hurry to steal out of it in the morning? That is as literal as I can get. If you're in courtship, my advice for you is to wait! Your time is coming.
Publicly Celebrate your Wedding:
A lot of youths today, under the pretence of "a prophet said" or "I don't want to make noise," will just grab a lady and begin to live with her. In order to fulfill all righteousness, there is a time to formally meet relations and also a time for the payment of dowry. Wisdom demands that you give honour to the family of your wife/husband-to-be, by participating in a formal engagement. Pay the stipulated dowry, but ensure that whatsoever you do does not violate your Christian principle.
Rebecca's people were only given precious and honourable things, not things for rituals. In Genesis 24:53, the Bible records that: And the servant brought forth jewels of silver, and jewels of gold, and raiments, and gave them to Rebekah: he gave also to her brother and to her mother precious things (Genesis 24:53).
A public Christian wedding also makes it possible for people to claim not to know that you are married. It must not necessarily be a society wedding, but it must be conducted in the church among the people of God. When you have your wedding in Church, you have formally invited God to be the third party in your union. Ecclesiastes 4:12 says: And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
God is the foundation for success in the home. Marriage and family are the oldest institutions in the world; they must not be toyed with. The right place to begin from is a personal relationship with God, through Jesus Christ. If you want to start this relationship right now, you can please say this prayer: "Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your blood. Deliver me from sin and satan, to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom".
Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus' Name!
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For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Marriage Covenant, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).