Unveiling The Secrets of A Successful Home (5)
Welcome to this wonderful time in the presence of the Lord. I have being teaching on Unveiling The Secret Of A Successful Home. So far, I have discussed the foundation that you should lay for your home to be successful. The place of prayer and the Word of God in your home will bring success, if you will follow after the pattern that God laid down in His Word. Last week I taught on the God's kind of love for a successful home.
This week, I shall be concluding this series by discussing, Communication the Key to a Successful Home.
If you don't have a healthy way of expressing your thoughts and emotions to each other, then everything else will ultimately crumble. For you to have a successful marriage, you have to make yourself an expert in communication.
Communication is said to be the art of passing across information. Until you successfully pass a message or thought across to someone else, you cannot be said to have communicated effectively. Communication in marriage involves more than passing across a feeling, thought, message or desire. It also involves how a thing is said and when it is said.
In marriage, the long word "communication" is broken down to "communion", which means, "sharing of thoughts and feelings." It also means," to speak together as close friends".
Communication is the key to a successful marriage. A wise man said, "If you talk together, you stay together", and I believe this is true. It is important for you to know that marriage is all about living together.
Look at the first man and woman called Adam and eve. They were the perfect couple in a perfect home; but they missed it at the point of communication. God commanded Adam not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. Adam, I suppose, believed, but failed to communicate the seriousness of this command to his wife Eve. She took it lightly, I suppose.
If you read the account carefully, you will find that in Eve's dialogue with the serpent, she mentioned that God "said", not "commanded" (Genesis 3:3). But God did not just say it, He commanded it. The Word of God says: But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die (Genesis 2:17).
The word "command" is our point of emphasis. The word actually means "order…authoritative instruction that something be done." A command is non-negotiable and un-debatable. The failure of the first family was the failure of Adam to sit his wife down and make her understand the severity of the issue. (This is not to say that Eve was entirely without fault. If she was not sure what to say to the serpent, she should have asked it to wait until Adam came home).
The issue is that Adam should have taken the lead in this matter as well. Many marriages are hitting the rocks today, because the men (husbands) who ought to be taking the lead in matters affecting their families, are not doing so!
Every time there is a breakdown in communication, what follows is not always pleasant. My husband once said that poor communication is the reason behind brutality in many Christian marriages, today. There must be an effective communication between family members as a whole, for frustration to be avoided.
When God gives either the man or his wife a vision or an assignment, they must share it with the other person, explaining gently until it is clearly understood. The chances of successfully carrying everyone along are slim.
For instance, my children and I fully understand my husband's vision. So it is easy for us to make the necessary sacrifices to ensure he doesn't fail. If I had no deep understanding of my place in his assignment, perhaps there would have been clashes. But we have never quarrelled and this is one of the reasons.
You must know that marriage is all about living lives together; it is a relationship between a man and a woman, who have committed their lives first to God, and then to each other. So, communication must first be one-on-one, between the man and his wife, and then other members of the family. That responsibility cannot be shifted to God. He will not leave heaven to come to your home and speak to your wife or your children on your behalf. It is a non-transferable responsibility.
To be able to communicate effectively in your marriage, you need God's grace. This grace comes by allowing Jesus to come into your heart now and your story will change. The first step to take to enjoy a change of story and level is to be a child of God (born again). You become born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus Christ as the Lord and Saviour of your life and family. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer: "Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me of my sins and cleanse me with Your blood. Deliver me from sin and satan, to serve the living God. I believe You died for me and on the third day, You rose that I might be justified. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom".
Congratulations, you are now born again! I believe that you will begin to experience the reality of the price that Jesus paid for your sins at Calvary. All-round rest and peace are guaranteed you, in Jesus' Name!
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For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Making Marriage Work, Marriage Covenant, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).